You know how it goes, it’s NEVER the one you want that wants you.
So what do you do when someone drops an “I like/love you” bomb on you….and you don’t feel remotely the same way?
First, put yourself in their shoes. Rejection hurts no matter how nicely it’s dished up.
If you had no clue how they’ve felt/You want to get rid of them:
- Find out why/when they felt this way (and become the complete opposite of what they like about you)
(Ex. You punch them in the arm HARD and frown a lot because they think you’re gentle and they love your smile) - Be Extra Clingy: Call more than you usually would, show up more where you know he/she is going to be, always have your arms around their neck/waist/shoulder… you can get as creative with this as you want. The more annoying the better.
If you knew how they felt and don’t want things to change:
- Talk to him/her: Just tell them how you feel, that you don’t feel the same way, but that you appreciate them and don’t mean to hurt them. (Sure they might be mad at you, but eventually they’ll understand. Just tell them the truth.)
- Depending on the person, you can say that you are VERY flattered, and that you want them to be happy, just not with you.
What tips or stories do you have?
How many ways can you say, “I like you, but I’m not into you.”?
Here’s some more ammunition:
Here’s how the other person feels:
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The Wandering Mind 
Haha,
In my experience it’s best to just tell them to f-off. It’s mean, I know. But the last thing you want to do is keep that hope a live. When I was in high school, this guy I had known since 7th grade asked me out everyday for that entire week leading up to Valentine’s Day. At first I thought it was a joke so I laughed, and he laughed. Then he started getting more persistent, and serious, and scary. So I lied and told him I liked his friend in an effort not to hurt his feelings. Why I thought it was a good idea I will never know–maybe I was panicked. Bottom line: nip it in the butt before it gets out of hand. You might end up losing a friend, but that’s really not your fault.
🙂
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I agree with you.
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That song is the truth
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That song is a few years old, but it came to mind while I was writing about this topic.
So what are you up to?
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The valentines day warning image is great 🙂
(still smiling)
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