Love Is The Game & The Prize

Ever since my VD experience (Valentine’s Day, not the other kind of VD or Vampire Diaries), I have been wondering where I stand with the many women in my life. I love many women, but am in love with few. Last night I had a chat with two of my closest friends who will be getting married to each other later this year (congrats once again), and they gave me some good advice. One thing that stuck with me was “If you’re close to each other just ask her directly”. I already do that when we talk about everything else, so why can’t I be direct when it comes to us?

I think that part of my hesitancy stems from not knowing how to gauge the way she treats me vs other guys. Yes, its me vs the world, only the world doesn’t know it yet! With most girls I can get a feel for their intentions towards me based on the way they look and talk with me or how affectionate they are. It’s like my Attraction GPS is off when it comes to her, yet somehow she always finds her way to me. I don’t want to take things for granted. I have no shame, so I can deal with being wrong about her and laugh it off over drinks and awkward stories. Oh the things we do.

Love is the game and the prize, and I am but one player (and no I don’t mean “Playa”).

Maybe someone can answer this question for me. When does “hanging out” become “dating”?

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4 thoughts on “Love Is The Game & The Prize

  1. Interesting post. Most people find themselves in this same situation – myself included.

    To answer your question, it all depends on you, you have to explicitly call it. As long as no one is taking the initiative, she wants you to “make the move” so she doesn’t feel 1) cheap 2) horrible if you say no to her. If she always finds you and has time to losten to your awkward stories, there’s something there; you just have to take it.

    I’ll leave you with this “men pretend to like women when they actually don’t while women pretend not to like men when they actually do”.



  2. I read the first sentence and was like, “oh no, stephen has VD.” haha I’m glad I read the whole the thing.
    As for your question, you got me there.
    Yet, I believe your best friend can be your best lover, so don’t push anything yet. When you hang out so much, some things are just a given, and they can be that much more special when words or titles aren’t needed. :]


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