Trust

Trust
Noun

1. firm reliance on the integrity, ability, etc., of a person or thing
2. confident expectation
3. responsibility; care
4. to hope – verb (used without object)
5. to have confidence

I Would Do Anything For You
Trust is both an emotional and logical act. Emotionally, it is where you expose your vulnerabilities to people, but believing they will not take advantage of your openness. I trust you because I have experienced your trustworthiness and because I have faith in human nature. We feel trust. Emotions associated with trust include companionship, friendship, love, agreement, relaxation, comfort.

Healthy relationships are founded on trust and an understanding of who the other person is (and actually liking those aspects). Be honest and respectful about your beliefs and intentions. People can sense when you’re trying to be someone you’re not, and that façade will put people on their guard. It is hard to work with someone whose personality you can’t predict or whose character you can’t put your finger on.

Trust Without Intrigue = “I’ll tell you when I’m in the mood, you can wait.”

Intrigue Without Trust = “I want to like you, but I’m not sure about you for some reason.”

Trust With Intrigue = “Can I tell you something?” &  “Oh tell me more.”

It’s important because it allows us to form relationships with others and to depend on others for love and advice. But trust also involves the risk that the very people we entrust will not pull through for us. If there was a guarantee then we would have no need to trust them. Thus, trust is also dangerous. What we risk while trusting is our self-respect which can be shattered by the betrayal of our trust.

Trust is important, but it is also dangerous.

The Gift of Empathy
This is what trust is essentially all about. Empathy helps to create a common bond and a bond of trust with people. Finding common ground is perfect for strangers during small talk and first encounters. Trust takes time, you can’t force it to happen. Don’t give me any of that, “Come with me if you want to live!” Arnold Schwarzenegger crap! As much as I hate to say it, trust has to be earned. Be patient. Be there when you are needed, during the good and bad times. Not everyone gives away their trust to just anybody.

If you want to get someone’s trust, you’ll have to spend some time working at it. Go out of your way for a friend, try to do something nice. If you seem dependable, your friend will give their trust freely.

Trust is a skill learned over time. Like a well-trained athlete, one makes the right moves, usually without much reflection.

Lastly, you have to learn to trust yourself before you can extend that same good faith to others. You have to acknowledge what you can trust and what you can’t trust about yourself and then go from there. By doing this you develop good judgement, and you also learn to recognize trustworthy traits in others vs. untrustworthy ones. You know what they say, “What goes around comes back around.”

What goes around comes back around

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3 thoughts on “Trust

  1. Trust has to be earned and it is a process that takes time. Great post. 😉

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  2. For some people it’s hard to trust beause of that fear of weakness but you just have to put yourself out there. I’m sure everyone just has to take it one step at a time. I enjoyed your take on trust. It was a really good post. 🙂

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  3. I love the pics you placed in this context 🙂

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