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It’s long been established that men and women can be friends. But a new study suggests the more compelling question is: Should they?

Researchers from the University of Wisconsin-Eau Claire plumbed the opposite-sex relationships of more than 400 adults, ranging in age from 18 to 52, and found attraction was both common and potentially costly. Across all but one demographic, in fact, the more attracted a person was to their friend, the less satisfied they were with their current romantic relationship.

“Attraction in friendship is happening, and it’s persistent,” says lead author April Bleske-Rechek, associate professor of psychology.

“I’d venture to say, based on all our data, that in the majority of [opposite-sex] friendships there’s at least a low level of attraction. And if it’s coming more from one friend than the other, it’s probably the guy.”


Because opposite-sex friendships are a novel concept, evolutionarily speaking, Bleske-Rechek believes people’s…

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  1. The Incog-Negro

    I have always said that men are only ‘friends’, real hang-out, do stuff, talk frequently friends with women they would secretly like to fuck if given the chance. I speak knowing full well that I fall into that camp. It is just an honest fact!

    If only women would admit that it is at least partially true for them: friends with men they find at least mildly attractive.


    • What we have to understand is that women don’t find men attractive, they make us attractive. So until that happens we’re all like a sea of Biebers, Ushers, and whatever average guys they find mildly entertaining.

      Whoops! Sarcasm aside, I always say that people become “friends” because they are attracted to something in each other. Its just a matter of what that is and whether cooking breakfast in the morning is a part of that chemistry combo.


  2. Oddly enough, I heard about this on T.O. radio station on my way home today. VERY interesting. 90% of men want to screw their female friends. Grrrr!!! I think I’m going to just give up on ever dating again. There’s a very slim to absolute zero chance of me meeting a guy who doesn’t wanna screw his friends. Maybe I’ll start batting for the other team. Hmmmpphhhhhhh!


    • Do women put other women in the “friend zone”? It’s a legit question.

      That’s it, we’re not friends anymore, I don’t want you getting the wrong impression. Haha.


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  6. I’m happy to find your blog, Wandering Mind. Cdn Stormlover pointed me to it after I ended a post yesterday by stating that men and women can’t be friends. News flash? No.

    I think women say “let’s be friends” for one of two reasons. Either they want to keep the guy around because he does nice things for her, aka using him, or, the woman is attracted to the man, he’s not attracted to her, and she hopes, given more time, she can change his mind. Lose/lose propositions eiter way.

    Looking forward to more wanderings.


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