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Impact


The moment of impact

The moment of impact

Hello you, you’re no stranger to me
You know me better than the weather
We’ve become deeper than the sea
It’s been a little while
So tell me what’s it gonna be?

The moment of impact
Hit before we could even react
There’s no words
No need for alarm
It’s already too late
We can’t fight what we’re knee deep in

Somehow a blip on your radar
Took more than a minute of your time
You wouldn’t believe it & I couldn’t see it
This came out of nowhere
So what do we do now?

The moment of impact
Swept us away before we could run away
There’s no time
No need for alarm
It’s already too late
We can’t fight what’s over our heads

Feel it coming in our bones
Just can’t shake it, now that we’re alone
Your guards can’t save you & I’m running low on ammo
Oh, just hold on
Touch the impossible
It’s too strong, our walls came crashing down
We’ve built a bond out of nothing but words
Nothing but words

Brace for impact
There’s no time
We’re already caught up in this

Hello you
You know me
Deeper than the sea
We can’t fight it…
Anymore

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Self-Fulfilling Prophecies


What you see, depends on how you see the world. Our outlook on life is based on our experiences & as much as the events of the past may dictate how we presently react, it really shouldn’t. Just because one Black person screwed you over, doesn’t mean that every Black person intends to screw you over.
Generalizations & stereotypes only serve to act as “self-fulfilling prophecies”. You believe that something will happen, so your focus unconsciously shifts into seeing or making it happen.

You can’t go around expecting everything to fail, because in the end it will fail, because you kept finding ways to make it do so. That’s like saying, “MOST OF US ARE PROGRAMMED TO FAIL, no matter how much we want to succeed.” Sometimes having no expectations & simply seeing what you can make of things is the only way to approach new situations.

Consider this, why did things fail? What can be done to prevent that from happening again? And what are you willing to do?
You can’t expect things to change & not try to change things with your own hands.

What Kills A Relationship?

ABUSIVENESS:
I’m not just talking about damaging physical or emotional abuse. I’m talking about other forms of abuse, such as put-downs, sarcastic remarks, other negative comments, withholding affection, refusing to talk, or threatening to leave.

DEFENSIVENESS:
This behaviour cuts you off from an extremely valuable source of feedback & insight.

If you routinely shut out this valuable source of feedback, by always trying to defend your actions & point of view, you will damage your relationships by not letting others contribute to you. It’s crazy I know, people actually want to make you better. You will continue to commit the same mistakes, over and over again ad nauseam, until both you & the other person gets tired of this.

Ben Franklin once said, “The sting of another’s criticism usually comes from the truth in it.”

CERTAINTY:
Whatever else you do, always remain certain that whatever you think, feel, or believe MUST be true. Never let doubt or contradictory evidence creep in. Never ask for guidance or support from others. And above all else, never admit to any shortcomings that might make you appear weak, stupid or human.

Always make it seem as though you know exactly what you are doing (even when you don’t have a freaking clue). This will insure you never learn anything new or different. It will also guarantee that people who want to love you will get totally frustrated with their efforts to help you succeed and be happy.

What Builds Up A Relationship?

CLARITY:
It’s very important for you and others to clarify (that means communicate with each other openly and honestly) expectations, feelings, beliefs, passions & the like. Please don’t assume that you know your partner’s thoughts, feelings, or desires, and don’t assume he or she understands yours either.

Always spell things out so there are no misunderstandings. And don’t mistake understanding for acceptance, I can understand something & still not like it.

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Late Night Confession


You only live once, but with that one life you can affect the lives of so many people. I’m not talking about on a global scale, but rather on a personal scale. When you walk into someone’s life you can change things as they know it or you can leave them exactly as they were. How you choose to do that is up to you (and them).

I am not always the most responsible person when it comes to the effect my words or actions can have on someone. I like words because they have definitions & those do not change. Actions however can change course, they can alter direction & shift things in a split second. Words & actions have such great impact on people that it is almost frightening to speak or move sometimes.

I don’t try to convince people of anything, I have never been one to push or force my views on anyone. So what do I do when I have to convince someone that I am worth keeping in their life?
I sit back, close my eyes & breathe in everything that has happened, because I know that the next thing I say or do has the power to change her mind; and that isn’t an easy thing to do at all.

You see, I don’t want to change her, in fact I am the one that needs to change. She needs to know that I value & respect her. I do as I say & yet what I’ve said isn’t good enough for her to do anything with. It’s not about feelings, this is about belief. Belief says that I have given you reasons to trust that I will do what’s neccessary, what’s right. Feelings say this is what is happening right now & hopes that it will last.

So here goes:

There is a disconnect & I think it started with me.
I hung up & ended something before it had even started.
Somewhere between loss & certainty you will find me laying.
I am at a loss for words because I don’t know where to start.
And I am certain of nothing when it comes you.
You do not want to be understood, but you need to be respected.
And I simply do not feel this way.
Feelings, what feelings, who needs to feel anyway?

I could stop & simply walk away.
Never look back & go my own way.
There was no history to build upon, only passion bonded by bodies & laughter in the night.
You have everything that you need, so what need is there for me?
There is none, I am not needed nor wanted.
I go nicely with cold days & sleepless nights.
I stay where you lay, unless I leave to find you all over again.

My mind says it’s complicated.
Your past says this is nothing new.
Our hearts still say nothing, because they have never been used.
This isn’t about feelings, there hasn’t been enough time for that.
This isn’t about promises made out of desperation & sewn together with apologies.
This is about finding reason to push beyond what you know & what I’ve been.

I am tired, but still I’m trying to find something.
Something new, something different, or better yet, something true.
The truth never changes even when we do.

I could be cut off from all emotion & still I’d pour my heart into you.
If not with words than with warmth & patience that only comes with time.
I could jump through a thousand flaming hoops, but I’d rather set myself on fire.
I could leave & call this nothing.
But instead I stay awake as I try to get closer to you.

For what it’s worth, I haven’t met anyone quite like you.
And I don’t think I ever will again.

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The Wandering Mind:

Check out this guest article of mine over at The Narcissist’s Blog, with Teri Jensen. She got me to write something that wasn’t a poem; it takes a rare woman to do that. Please peruse through her insightful blog.

Originally posted on The Narcissist's Blog ©:

By Stephen Quammie, the Wandering Mind

 How many times can you ask somebody the same question?

“Do you love me?”
“Do you trust me?”
“Do I turn you on baby?”
“What are we doing?”

These questions are repeatedly asked during the course of a relationship. We ask these questions because we want to know whether we’re dealing with love or lust. Attraction plays a huge part in a relationship; in the midst of all our chemistry, flirtation & embraces, we need to know where we’re at. Usually I will say how I feel, or I will try to show you, but if you really need to know how I feel, I see no problem in asking. Some things are worth asking & you will get what you deserve; an answer.


                   “Why don’t we go out tomorrow night?”

That question sounds respectful, right. I don’t know what your schedule is like…

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Runaway


As long as there’s distance
There’s a chance to get away
A whisper isn’t the same from a thousand feet away
Give up your secrets
I won’t be another one of them
What do you want from me?

Ignore what I’m saying so you can continue feeling the same
Do not disturb a thing cus you like things just the way they are
Can’t touch you; don’t want you to break like porcelain
When you hit the ground running, I have to wonder whether you’re running from me or the pain?
Everybody’s got problems as long as they’ve got breath

Nobody’s got more reasons to stay gone than the heart that’s been wronged
Yet you keep me on the phone with promises of one on one quality time
Face to face dreams, oh what a shame
Wake up with the other side of the bed still empty all the same
Hate to bitch & moan, but I’m not trying to make a bitch moan
I’ve tried to beat it into your heart from the moment our song started playing
Even when it’s all over, you continue dancing around feelings like you’re trying to make it rain

You don’t want to be alone with me
It’s safer on the other side of the line
If you think this can last, you would be wrong
You can’t push my buttons & expect me to stay
My condolences to your consolation prizes
Nobody wants to lie to themselves just to keep you warm

As long as there’s distance
There’s a chance to get away
So I’ll get away to make up for the pain
Give someone good some good love
I won’t be afraid to get close & keep it that way
What could be better?
Ready, set, go!

Notes:
This is an unreleased entry from last year. I reworked it after finding it in my email.

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